It might as well be heading to Iceland if the destination is not carefully mapped out. Even cruise ships, built specifically for tours and entertainment has a particular destination it’s heading to; so why not a relationship? Assumption is a killer of committed relationships.
Never assume you and your partner are reading the same pages of a book just because you have shared a few mind blowing kisses and had some good times together. Sure, you love each other; you connect well and have a rather healthy relationship but are you sure he/she is the one you should marry?
Being a great boyfriend or girlfriend is different from being a great spouse.
Many people assume that since they get along with their partners as boyfriend and girlfriend, that they will automatically end up married and live happily ever after-Right? Well, Wrong! Every relationship is not obligated to end in marriage.
There are people you meet on the road to destiny who are just great friends but they are only there to map out the layout and not necessarily your destiny helper. Women are particularly culprits in the assumption arena.
Even if you have been in relationship with a guy for a long time, don’t automatically assume it will end up in marriage.
The guy might be having a great time frolicking with you and marriage is the last thing on his mind. The sooner you find out where the relationship is heading the better for all concerned as it will help prevent a lot of confusion and heart ache later on.
To avoid this type of mistake from occurring, the first thing you need to do in every relationship you enter is to define it. Ask yourself: What kind of relationship do I really want with this person?
Is it going to be platonic, friends or strictly for marriage? This way, you will know whether you are both on the same boat or not. If your heart is set on marriage, how can you tell whether your partner is thinking the same way?
Well, the signs are very clear to read, if you are willing to accept the truth staring you in the face; even if it is not what you want exactly.
The first step is to throw sentiments in the air and observe all angles of your relationship- not just the wonderful parts that you want to see.
If you are the type of person who would like to settle down and get married, then you are naturally going to want a partner who will have the same dreams and goals as you when it comes to love and relationships.
That is exactly why you must talk about this with the person you are dating once your relationship reaches a comfortable enough point to talk about marriage and commitment.
Of course, there are some relationships where it is difficult to read your partner, due to mixed signals.
If you feel that your partner loves you, but not really sure whether he or she will actually agree to marry you, then the following signs are what you should look out for:
• Your partner tries to change the subject or brushes you off whenever you bring up marriage.
• He or she tells you that marriage is not something that he/she is too crazy about at the moment or that relationship requires some level of patience
• When they come up with classic excuses such as: ‘’I am not ready yet; We’ll get married when we have more money; I’d like to get some other things done first before marriage; We love each other, so what’s the rush?….and so on.”
• Tries to change you to conform to who they want or complains about everything you do. A person either loves you for who you are or they simply don’t.
Don’t allow anybody to put you in a box they created all by themselves Do not rob yourself of true happiness by thinking your partner will come around or that you can change him/her, because this usually never works and you will only end up waiting around for a man or woman who will never give you what you truly want.
Don’t blame anyone when a seven year relationship ends just because you didn’t have enough courage to ask where the relationship is actually heading to.
The best thing to do is to observe your partner’s behavior when the topic of marriage is broached and then trust your instincts to unravel the true destination of that relationship.
When the chips are down and you’ve been able to decipher that your partner is not deeply committed to the relationship like you do, then it’s time to pack your bags, end the pity party and look for someone who will see love the same way you do.
Getting married is a beautiful life experience, but only if it is with a person who wants to be in it just as eagerly as you do.
•Send your views to the email above!
No comments:
Post a Comment